Why do we get the same pain over and over again.

I define ego as that story we make up about who we are and what we believe to be true and right. We will do almost anything to keep that story in place. It is the summation of all that we believe to be true and when someone or something bounces off of that belief and challenges it because it doesn't agree with the story they have in mind, we will do what ever we can to show them that our way is right. In fact it is right for you, the problem is applying our way of things being right to other people. If we could just get that our opinion is really only important to our ego. If we could accept things to just be the way they are and not make a judgement about them our lives would be almost bliss.


"It is the decision that we make about what happened that determines our experience of what happen." At the moment of decision we make a choice about what happened and in making the choice that something is wrong, "wrongness" can and does show up. If you had chosen rightness then that is what shows up. If you had no reaction to the "what happened" then you don't even notice it.

So I think the trick is to be in charge of what we hold as true and right.